Roadrunner icon courtsey: http://www.cartoonspot.netOur May post ended with our heroine (you,
dear reader) dangling from the cliff of fear. Your precarious dilemma?
Do you confront your fears, or do you stay far away from the cliff and
stuck in your comfortable, although dissatisfying, patterns?
In 1948, animation director Chuck Jones
created the best chase scenes of all time with the Road Runner cartoons.
When Wile E. Coyote chases Road Runner to the cliff, Road Runner scurries
off to the side of the ledge with a cheery “Beep, beep!” On his
website, Kevin McCorry points out that “Nothing happens to Wile E.
Coyote that Wile E. does not initiate. Road Runner can only harm him
after the chase has already begun by suddenly beep-beeping and startling
Wile E. into various dangers, such as falling off a cliff or a jump
upward which hits his head.”
It makes more sense creatively to be
Road Runner rather than Wile E. Coyote. Be prepared, savvy, clever,
and brave. Don’t let fear propel you over the cliff; put your fear
to work.
Let’s look at a case study. “Helen”
is a sister member of Story Circle Network. She struggles with balancing
roles of family and work, a classic situation in modern life for many
women.
Helen is a lover of words and an avid
reader. To the question “What brings you to life?” her answer is,
quite simply—writing. She loves attempting to craft feeling and meaning
with carefully chosen words. She reads books slowly, because she frequently
runs to her notebook to write down new ideas.
Helen is also the mother of 5 children,
ages 7 to 18. She has spent most of her life at home with her children
but returned to the work force as a substitute teacher 3 years ago.
She now finds herself at home again after education cuts. Now she is
trying to figure out how to organize her time to devote more of her
day to her writing.
Helen’s fear is that if she pursues
her love of writing, she won’t fulfill her obligations as wife, mother,
and homemaker. She sees herself teetering on a balance beam with her
domestic role on one side and her role as a writer on the other. There
are days when Helen wonders why she bothers. What makes her think she
has anything to say? Why would she want to take away from her family
for something so selfish?
Helen’s dialogue with fear went something
like this:
Helen: Fear, what do you need?
Fear: I need to know that we are
not letting down our family. I’m afraid that our family is suffering
because of the writing.
Helen: Fear, what do you want?
Fear: I want to figure out a way
to do both without feeling guilty.
Helen: What are you offering,
Fear?
Fear: I’m pointing out that
this is our chance to figure it out.
Helen continued her dialogue with her
fear. She put forth ideas, listened when Fear brought up potential pitfalls,
and explored alternatives to find a better balance between family and
writing acceptable to both her and her fear.
As a first step Helen is experimenting
with setting intentions as Noelle Oxenhandler suggests in The Wishing Year.
Her intention is to make the time and space to sit, writing her way
back home. She is also using our Creative Catalyst post on creating
a writing practice (See our archives at http://is.gd/zfY8.) As her experiment progresses and the situation
changes, Helen will need to go back to her dialogue to resolve new issues.
We are our own best experts on our desires
and fears. There is no one more capable of resolving the tension between
the two. Like a diplomat in an international skirmish, offer to shake
hands with your fear and work out a compromise. Don’t set yourself
up to be the hapless Wile E. Coyote, plunging headfirst over the cliff.
Better to be the problem-solving Road Runner. Beep-beep!
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Column written by Janet Grace Riehl of St. Louis in collaboration with
Stephanie Farrow of Albuquerque. July’s post, third and last in this cycle
considers: “Can we negotiate with fear?
Pose questions about practical creativity; give
ideas for future cycle themes; and join in the dialog in the comment section
below. If you’d like to see previous articles in this series, go to
http://storycircle.typepad.com/scn/creativity/
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